Singled Out: Why Celibacy Must Be Reinvented in Today's Church

Singled Out Why Celibacy Must Be Reinvented in Today s Church Authors Christine Col n and Bonnie Field thought that by a certain age they would each be married But they watched that age come and go and still no walks down the aisle In Singled Out they reflect o

  • Title: Singled Out: Why Celibacy Must Be Reinvented in Today's Church
  • Author: Christine A. Colón Bonnie E. Field
  • ISBN: 9781587432378
  • Page: 437
  • Format: Paperback
  • Authors Christine Col n and Bonnie Field thought that by a certain age they would each be married But they watched that age come and go and still no walks down the aisle.In Singled Out, they reflect on their experience and that of an increasing number of Christians Rejecting overly simplistic messages from the church about waiting for marriage, they explore a deeperAuthors Christine Col n and Bonnie Field thought that by a certain age they would each be married But they watched that age come and go and still no walks down the aisle.In Singled Out, they reflect on their experience and that of an increasing number of Christians Rejecting overly simplistic messages from the church about waiting for marriage, they explore a deeper understanding of celibacy that affirms singles decision to be sexually pure, acknowledges their struggles, and recognizes their importance in the church community.Thoughtful and accessible, Singled Out is an invaluable voice of realistic encouragement for any single as well as an important tool for church leaders and others concerned with mission and ministry for singles.

    One thought on “Singled Out: Why Celibacy Must Be Reinvented in Today's Church”

    1. This is the absolute best book I've ever read on singleness - and I've read several. It also offers one of the best perspectives on marriage I've come across - one that doesn't succumb to the wrong thinking that a spouse makes one complete or fulfills all our desires. It's written by two (older) single women, which I really appreciated right off the bat, and especially as I worked my way through the book. Many books on singleness are written by 25 year olds who are essentially detailing their "s [...]

    2. This was one of the best books I've read on the subject of singleness and celibacy. I would recommend this book to every Christian single out there as well as to pastors and those in the ministry.I thought the authors did a wonderful job validating what many Christian singles feel these days, especially the older singles who didn't marry by time they hit 30 years old. It sounds like overall the church is dropping the ball when it comes to treating singles as fellow believers who have just as muc [...]

    3. the beginning review of issues in various tv shows and movies felt a bit obvious, but overall great analysis, source review and thoughtful suggestions for the individual and the church as community. Encouraging in multiple directions.*********************************************************************4/25/2014 update: I liked what these authors had to say before, but lately I've been seeing more articles and connected discussions that make me realize how very needed this book is. I never would [...]

    4. "Singled Out is the best book I've read in years—I can hardly say enough good about it. It directly addresses a couple of issues most fundamental to those of us living in our western culture, and does so in a way no one else that I am aware of has done. Beyond that, the conclusions that the authors, Dr. Christine Colón and Bonnie Field, come to are Christ-centric and in line with the new testament in contrast to the vast majority of churches and Christians today, particularly within evangelic [...]

    5. An excellent analysis of views in the church and the culture on marriage and singleness. The authors do an excellent job of showing how much of the church's current exaltation of marriage is exegetically problematic and practically harmful. They're very balanced in emphasizing that they aren't denigrating marriage, and they provide very helpful advice for how individuals and churches can move toward a better understanding of their own and others' singleness, and how it serves as another model of [...]

    6. This is it: this is the book that finally articulates what is so troubling about the church's attitude towards its singles. This is the answer to I Kissed Dating Goodbye, to When God Writes Your Love Story, and to every other saccharine text that forgets that singleness need not be endured white-knuckled, but may be thoroughly enjoyed and celebrated, if we only see it right.Essentially, the book is divided into two halves. In the first, Colon and Fields spell out the messages sent about celibacy [...]

    7. At last, an honest look at marriage and singleness among today's Christians. I must say that this is the first book that I've read on this topic to which I can actually relate. The authors look at positive and negative messages about singleness in both the church and the culture, discuss some dangerous messages emanating from the church about singleness, and discuss the possibility of developing a more positive message for today's Christian singles. I found the analysis to be very insightful, an [...]

    8. I expected practical, down-to-earth spiritual solutions but I didn't find any. I wanted to see if I could use a book like that to help me minister to single ladies in the Middle East and give them a boost of encouragement. The book comes across as more of a sociological study that presents the American culture, Sex in the City and the place of sex in the culture here, etc. I have no interest in that whatsoever!

    9. Yes! Talk about a book that needed to be written. There's much room for improvement in how the church handles singleness and celibacy. Typically, we put the focus on "abstinence" (Don't have sex!!) which implies that you just need to "hang on until marriage". This approach is increasingly insufficient as people get married later and later, or not at all. The authors do a great job of challenging single people and their churches to embrace a vision of celibacy that can survive the long haul - whe [...]

    10. A much-needed discussion of how single Christians are supposed to live now, as many of us remain single into our 30s, 40s, and beyond. Raised with the expectation that our abstinence and single life would end quickly, we need more acceptance from and inclusion in the Church, as well as more long-term solutions. I agree with and appreciate all of the authors' points, and strongly encourage anyone in ministry to read this book. I will say that it took me a long time to finish, because soon after s [...]

    11. This is just an honest look at the life of a single Christian and modern church/society expectations/perspectives on singleness. Enlightening and encouraging.wish more people would talk about it.

    12. If you are 30 or over, single, and a believer - read this book. If you are in leadership in a church - read this book!

    13. Showed me many of the ideas, assumptions, and values I’ve picked up from the church and/or American culture without even realizing it. Highly recommend!

    14. I'm nearly done with this book and i've found it to be very insightful. But let me list my frustrations first:whoever proofread and edited this should be suspended without pay until they actually earn their paycheck. the grammatical mistakes, spelling errors, and verbal ticks are so prevalent they distracted me from the content of the book. and the content itself was often stylistically distracting and repetitive. it could have been a shorter book. the authors are speaking on a neglected and cri [...]

    15. This was an excellent book, and the subject is one that needs to be addressed in churches. I liked that the authors sought to address singles at different ages and stages of life. They didn't minimize or mock either those who seek to get married or those who don't. Much doctrine has been invented and mysticism attached to marriage, and one of the main points of this book was that marriage and family need to be put in a proper perspective (as Christians we have a larger family than just the famil [...]

    16. Outstanding apologetic for the life of singleness in the church today. I fit into the single/celibate category for 37 years, and it is still easy for me to fall into the exclusively nuclear-family-centered model that dominates many of our churches. During my years as a single person I heard all the cliches the authors mention, and while not easy, it was a season of growth and intimacy with God that I would not trade. Well-researched and well-written, I was a bit concerned the book wouldn’t mov [...]

    17. While I (almost) fit the target audience, I wasn't won over. In fact, by the end, I really didn't like the book. I did identify with a lot of the statements made early on in the book when the authors were making lots of spot on observations. However, the authors did not go beyond this. Much of the book is quoted from numerous other books which makes the narrative feel a lot like regurgitation. The authors don't appear to make any concrete or original statements of their own. Also, the latter por [...]

    18. There are a few instances where I think the author is perhaps a bit too sensitive about what authors say about marriage, but by and large there were I thought she did a good job covering an important topic largely ignored by the church today. I'm still thinking about this book especially in conjunction with the church's general lack of support for homosexuals who wish to honor God by staying celibate. This book and others seem to indicate the church's need to create and foster better more inclus [...]

    19. Both married and unmarried people need to understand the issues that are thoughtfully and honestly addressed in this book. The authors criticize various harmful messages from both inside and outside the Christian church, then move toward a positive, theologically grounded understanding of celibacy. There aren't enough books like this.

    20. I liked the beginning of the book with its references to contemporay culture--using movies and tv shows. There was not much new in the analysis of the issues, although there are many references for further reading. The authors worked well to synthesize a lot of current thought/information on the issues.

    21. The last chapter was the best. While I understand setting up the problems with the contemporary church's approach to singleness, the first three chapters could have been condensed into one. I do appreciate the idea that we can celebrate our sexuality through celibacy. All spiritual disciplines are difficult, and the discipline of celibacy does not make one lesser or lacking in his/her human experience; it is another means of showing our trust in a faithful and good God.

    Leave a Reply

    Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *